...how about living for myself?

'You don't like cooking?! How will you cope when you get married?'

'It doesn't matter if you slept late. As a lady, you should up at 7am!'

'Don't talk back at me! Is that what you will do to your mother-in-law?'

I have spent half of my youthful life listening to this kind of rebukes and I wonder, how about I live for myself ? Instead of for a mother-in-law or husband I haven't even met. If you are an African lady then I bet you have heard one of these rants.

Reasons like these makes me feel like I'm not living for myself, and instead of growing up as a lady who wants to live, experience and explore life for my own development, I am being trained to become a perfect robot  to please some next guy who is probably somewhere at the moment with friends enjoying a drink or sowing wild oats.

Don't get me wrong, I intend to meet a Mr. Right -if he exists- whom I will love and he in return, but how about living for myself and meeting someone who is pleased with it?! How about that?